Regenopause

The Evolutionary Woman – Barbara Marx Hubbard is where I heard this term from and at a time when it spoke to me on so many levels… one of them being the impetus of this blog.

My story starts with menopause not at the still relatively young age of 50 but actually I would estimate at about 24.  I say estimate because I cant tell for sure, no woman can (that I’m aware of) it’s a few signs that in retrospect pointed me towards that time, the first being the night sweats.  If you’re male or haven’t yet had the privilege of going through menopause yet then let me explain… I would wake my bedding and clothing (if any) were drenched, the heat I would emit overnight was enough for my partner to prefer to remove himself from my vicinity on numerous occasions, it was uncomfortable and annoying to say the least.

Then there was the mood swings and finally depression that characterised particular situations in my life certainly (that’s a whole nother blog) but again in retrospect it was also another tell-tale sign of being in menopause at the tender age of my early 20’s. Not that I knew that was what it was at the time.  In fact it wasn’t until my early 30’s would I learn of my predicament and I use that word deliberately because it was embarrassing, among other things, at that point… I was just getting ready to have children or so I assumed, only to be told that my bloods showed a totally different life path.

The condition I came to understand was premature ovarian failure but to my “friends” I was less of a woman not only because I was barren but also because of the connotation of being in menopause – old, ageing – not something I wanted to be associated with as a vibrant 31 year old.

Regenopause

No person I believe wants to really be associated with being old, yet as Barbara so eloquently put it, in terms of REGENOPAUSE – the ability to regenerate, to refocus your attention to what the world needs you to do.  It wasn’t something I’d ever thought of…  a life without children.

It took me a lot of years; emotional roller coasters which went from self loathing to self love; testing of many relationships; personal growth and self reflection to figure out I was okay being just me.  Forging a new path, one that wasn’t built on either a social construct that women should automatically be mothers at some point, nor my own life plan to have children.  This is something I’m passionate about because I no longer prescribe to the Brules – I’m a bad ass MOFO these days.

What truly touched me though with Barbara’s words, when she had her regenopause moment, are how I am also nearing 50 and am finally recognising my Impulse and being conscious of using my Inner Compass to guide me.  She was right, we are all creative and she’s left a marvelous legacy for other Evolutionary Women to follow, to which I want to pay gratitude and thanks as I continue my journey and seek to be the Female Wave of Change I want to see in the world.

I hope this has been enlightening, challenging and everything in between…. Now this is the point at which you get to choose your next adventure… May I suggest Dear World or Energy to Burn & Back to Nature; otherwise just as awesome would be if you share your thoughts – you can add them below or engage me direct susie@mssusanne.com.au

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Dear World…

Scenario: Imagine sitting down and writing a letter to everyone on the planet that will not be opened and read for 25 years. It’s an expression of what you hope has happened in that time. 

This was the opportunity given to me by the book Truth, Growth, Repeat by Mike Edmonds – an awesome book with a practical application for anyone in business, start-up mode or even just wanting to work out your purpose and what to do next.  There is a reason it’s title includes the statement [a business manual for generation why] and I highly recommend it.

Leadership Quote

I figure there’s no need to pussy foot around, it’s self explanatory as to what this is all about so here goes…

Dear World…

In 2019 there were fears about the jobs of the future, distrust of capitalism and because of Industry 4.0 in addition to Society 5.0 massive uncertainty for humanity’s ability to adapt, embrace and expand with the universe instead of spiraling into a black hole of unconsciousness. I had faith, belief, a knowingness that conscious capitalism, our endeavor for meaning and oneness would prevail and it has. The basic needs for all beings have been met, the UN Sustainable Development goals were delivered and then some… The spark of innovation, creativity and compassion continues to drive changes in our society, through community engagement, economic empowerment and personal growth… What started as a concept for a consortium approach to upgrade humanity from the top down was successful because we never wavered from delivering on our commitments, we were unfuckwithable, self assured, future focused and through continual learning we achieved our targets within just 3 short years. What started as a concept, developed into a business and eventually became a movement that drove humanity forward at a pace equal to technology. R. Buckminster Fuller was right, the relay race was touch-and-go and I’m eternally grateful for the wonderful humans who led the charge, reminded those around them of just how brilliant they were too and how collectively we helped make it to Utopia.

Love Always Ms Susanne

I’d also like to share with you my journal entry (one year from now) which is another way to put it out to the universe and start to manifest the reality you want to see in the world.

Journal Entry

Date: …..30/07/2020………….

I am so grateful for the last year. In the last year I have achieved so many of my goals, I feel energized by my environment as it inspires and supports me and my family; I am surrounded by positivity, love, abundance and success.  I am part of a community that values diversity, inclusion and empowerment.  I have an abundance of time for myself and those I love and there is an element of fun in everything we do. 

My personal cash flow has increased and now enables me to pursue travel, adventures and growth experiences that were just not possible a year ago… it all seemed so restrictive and precarious back then and at the same time I knew I had put myself in that situation so I could learn from it and develop the grit to leverage my value if ever the opportunity presents itself again. I’m so grateful I can also now speak to this and share my knowledge with others.

My personal wealth has tripled, and I am now actively engaged in projects that educate and drive humanity forward also this has enabled me to support and encourage other humanity and environment plus enterprises and start-ups.

I love myself unconditionally, I am enough, and I have achieved this through exposing myself to continual learning experiences, becoming the servant leader who attracts and works with such amazing individuals that support me in my life and growth.

My business has taken off in ways I never thought possible, the groundswell and support proves to me that humanity is heading in the right direction, there are enough conscious individuals on the planet that are driven to making changes in society through community engagement, economic empowerment and personal growth.

My customers are my tribe, as is my team, our partners and our suppliers – the whole ecology is symbiotic and self-perpetuating.  I have developed my relationships through affinity, communication, a shared reality and understanding.

I am healthy physically and mentally, nourishing and being kind to myself every day, my daily practices provide me with ongoing growth through experience of self and others because I am constantly in choice of my thoughts, words and actions.  This enables me to engage with, learn and see all the beauty this world has to offer.

I schedule regular adventures that I haven’t had before, some of them just everyday activities like walking down a different street to get to a known destination and because of my wealth I am able to share in my love of adventure, my abundance and success with those closest to me.  Throughout these adventures I actively contribute to the environment I am in so to support and promote engagement with the community, communicating with presence, intention and a desire to understand.

My net wealth is a direct result of my network and I have grown and support the community I am in, investing 10% of my wealth (time + money) to education, skills development and experiential based learning for all.

My next year is going to continue to be filled with the experiences, growth and contribution that speak to my heart and enable me to continue sharing my love with the world, my fellow human beings and the universe…

Even if I achieve only one tenth of what I am working towards [note: this shit doesn’t just happen by sitting in your room and ‘wishing’ or repeating it in some kind of affirmation] I will be very proud of myself because I’ve taken a step towards the future, my future, the one I envision and I want to manifest with all my heart and a burning passion that means I get up early; read absorb and implement; talk to, collaborate and engage with the kind of individuals who have been there and done it… [that’s the action bit you want to do if you actually want to make this shit happen]

I hope this has rattled your cage and awakened something in you to get down your own vision for the world.  Now this is the point at which you get to choose your next adventure… MOFO or Missed the G Spot or just as awesome would be if you share your thoughts – you can add them below or engage me direct susie@mssusanne.com.au

If you’re not ready to take your next adventure now then you can always subscribe and come back later…

smileykiss

Energy to Burn & Back to Nature

Energy

Although there’s been a fair amount of time since my course in Vipassana, the individual days and the title of each blog post that I committed to memory upon the reflection each evening, are all still fresh in my mind.

Day 7 was the first day that I didn’t feel the overwhelming need to rest in the lunch and afternoon breaks.  Having come through the pain barrier and a number of emotional hurdles during my day’s of silence, this day was a reminder of how grateful I am for my health.  I am mostly cognisant of the correlation between my physical well being and that of my quality of life, however today’s reflection was another reinforcement of how taking a break from toxins such as alcohol and incorporating more vegetables, some fruit and drinking lots of water, can be a simple but effective tool.

Because of the additional energy I had, the additional joy I could incorporate into my day increased – I walked more, through the beautiful bush and over the rocky outcrops on the property; I sat and admired the birds, the clouds and listened to the sounds of nature. It’s funny because when I talk to others about my experience at this course most are shocked and bewildered at why I want to do it again, yet it is just these experiences – of getting back to basics, being present, switching off from technology and other distractions and continually practicing mastering my mind, that are the reasons I would rather pose the question – why wouldn’t I.

 

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Day 8: Back to Nature

Being in nature rejuvenates me, it makes me look in wonder at our world, it reminds me of how much beauty we are surrounded by, how precious life is and how much I have to be grateful for.  There’s so much to see when you choose to be quiet, present and observe your surroundings.  I watched as a blue wren flittered in and around the bushes, a goulds monitor moving through the undergrowth, the glistening web of a spider, dancing shadows as the sun peered through the tree tops… even reminiscing about that day has me feeling calm, centred and happy.  In fact that’s something I’m learning to do more of – rather than seek happiness just in the present or the future for that matter, those goals I’m working towards.  There is more benefit in looking to where I’ve come from, what I have achieved to remind me that I can be happy in the now.

Nature has many lesson’s that she’s constantly teaching us but the question is are we willing to listen?  Our environment is ever changing, with the ebbs and flow of the water, the wind, the earth, day to night and day after day ever evolving.  I’m an evolutionary woman… having been born with a womb yet unable to carry, I now seek to give birth to my inner light.   Woah there trigger – too deep?!? I think that’s a whole other episode or three 😉

I do like to go in depth and challenge my own thoughts and hopefully get you thinking too but we’ll save that for another day.  Let’s get back to nature…

Day 8 for me was another heaven on earth moment – such bliss – I get it when Barbara Marx Hubbard talks to the inner ‘Compass of Joy’ because it’s times like this that I am feeling connected to the world and to my self, the authentic me.  Isn’t that what we’re all looking for… happiness and more accurately, happiness in the now!  I do believe that to be attainable through choice, through mastering your mind, feeding your soul and actively seeking the experiences that your compass of joy can bring into your life when your willing to listen to it.

This is the point at which you get to choose your next adventure… Heaven on Earth or The Pain Barrier or just as awesome would be if you share your thoughts – you can add them below or engage me direct mailto: susie@MsSusanne.com.au

If you’re not ready to take your next adventure now then you can always subscribe and come back later…

smileykiss

The Pain Barrier

Have you ever tried to sit in one position (on the floor) for an hour, not moving, bolt upright on a couple of pillows?  Believe me when I tell you from my perspective I never expected it to be so hard but it was…

Day 5 I really started to understand the effort it was going to take for me to endure the sensations running through my body as I tried to maintain my position whilst going through the process of the Vipassana meditation.  My only reference about this, prior to attending, was someone’s description that their body was screaming at them and their mind wanted them to listen and move.  However I believe that like any physical exercise, when you initially start there is always a pain barrier to get past.

Yoga

I love Bikram yoga but I felt I endured much pain (and some suffering) during those early years of my body coming to terms with the physicality of this practice but the great thing was my mind readily expressing it to me during this 10 day course.  A reminder of the fact that I started barely able to touch my toes, days after still feeling the lactic acid throughout my body and aches in places I didn’t know I had muscles.  The timely reminder of these images in my head gave me an opportunity to reflect and remember what I have been able to achieve and could again do if I chose to draw on that strength.

Anyone that has seen and/or listened to Colin O’Brady’s TEDx would have to agree that our ability to change our mindset does literally mean you can change your reality and achieve anything.  I mean I wasn’t even close to having to endure what he went through so I could surely overcome the sensations I was feeling sitting still for an hour… Like any good inspirational tale though the implementation isn’t easy, the theory is sometimes already known to us but what is fundamentally missing is the belief.

Although I’ve been on this self development journey for a while (as long as I can remember really but more seriously the last 5 years), I was pleased to have had some foundational grounding in this concept through Advanced Business Abilities less than 6 months prior to my attending the Vipassana course.  Because it was through the Leadership and Communication Skills Accelerator (LCSA) that I saw the true potential for transformational change during experiential learning.  Through Mike’s training I integrated the theory of how our minds can get in the way of our ability to communicate with others and building on what Mike had started to teach me about ‘Emotional Charge’ I was then able to put that into perspective and not only appreciate the concept but I was again experiencing how my mind was the root of my own suffering.

Which all sounds very depressing doesn’t it?

Well actually I hope not… The intention here is to focus on what we can achieve with our mind.  It’s about realising that we all do have suffering, in some way, shape or form and it’s not a matter of comparison because we’re all on our own journey’s.  In fact that’s what makes us all just $5 in a jar; all the same bunch of atoms but with unique expressions like the nuances of our genes, from my perspective.  I in fact love to learn more and more about our human condition, our mind, our bodies, our existence on this earth, in this universe and possibly beyond.  The more and more I delve, the more it feels like we’re scratching at the surface and there’s just so much potential for our future with human kind being just that – KIND to one another, KIND to ourselves.

Or another way I like to put it:

K – kindred spirits

I – intelligent beings

N – nature and nurture

D – developing

As kindred spirits we have the choice to hold the same belief’s, attitudes and feelings of a positive future that we can each impact.  The intelligent beings we are have produced and continue to produce such advances to not only technology but spirituality and understanding of our human condition that can, if we choose, will further human kind.  It’s through nature and our ability to nurture the mind, the body, this earth that we will produce a legacy of paying it forward and endures throughout time.  Because ongoing development of myself and a passion to educate others; not standing still (although again is a choice we all have) is of no appeal to me… How about YOU?

What’s your next adventure… Heaven on Earth or Misery to Happiness

I’d love it if you share your thoughts – you can add them below or engage me direct susie@mssusanne.com.au

If you’re not ready to take your next adventure now then you can always subscribe and come back later…

smileykiss